does anyone else find this REALLY difficult?! please i need advise?
Bebe
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Monday, 2nd of August 2010 01:01:02 AM
l have a hree month old daughter, and she is our first, and ever since Bebe ivebeen able to move around afte rmy c-section, its been nearly impossible Registered User to kep up with house work. l manage to get the laundry done for the most Joined: Friday, 7th of May 2010, 02:27:22 part, but things like dishes and just organization in general seem to not Posts: 1811 happen anymore....im a stay at home mom, while my boyfriend works 8-12 Viewed 7573 times hour days every day...i just c ant seem to keep up with things,,,which l
barely understand because l dont even use dishes because l dont seem to
have the time to make anything more complicated than a bowl of cereal or
peanut butter sandwich to eat...so at the most there should be some
bowlsand spoons but there is a TON of stuff...and our kitchen is so small
l just cant seem to get things done...and l feel completely useless! my
boyfriend makes all of our money, and ends up being the one to do the
dishes and cook on his days off...i just cant ge the motivation to do
it....i dont have the time to stand and do an hours worth of dishes...my
daughter is needy (as babies generally are haha)
i dont know l
guess im just wondering if anyone else feels useless?
or if
anyone has advice on how l can be a better housewife/stay at home mommy/>
mocha latte
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Tuesday, 3rd of August 2010 03:51:30 AM
First.Relax mocha latte It is Hard being a new Mommy. I know I am one! Do not beat yourself up Registered User about the house.it will still be there. Do as much as you can & let the Joined: Saturday, 1st of May 2010, 20:53:06 rest go. Your Baby is our number one priority right now & I promise it Posts: 1945 does get easier. My little one is 5 months & is asleep for the whole night Viewed 2503 times by 7:00. I am back to work now so that does take some adjustment. Look if
you need some advise or a shoulder to cry on, email me. We new Moms need
all of the help & support we can fine.
I promise it gets better.:)
Dew
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Wednesday, 4th of August 2010 08:45:53 PM
First off ur not alone... adjusting to motherhood is difficult, Dew i have often felt the way you are feeling right now. how do i take care of Registered User my daughter & do anything else!!! lol its mind boggling, what i learned is Joined: Monday, 19th of April 2010, 18:49:36 first don't expect to get anything done because if you dont than when you Posts: 96 fall short of ur expectations you wont be disappointed, wake up every Viewed 8098 times morning & just deal with things as they come, & know that realistically
there are just some days that things are not going to get done, but what
you have to do is use the time you have wisely, during naps go into warp
speed pick up the house, do up the dishes, make a quick meal, & also find
ways to do things while baby is awake, what i do is i put my daughter in
her stroller & give her some toys to play with or look at & i wheel her
aroudn the house while im getting stuff done, when she gets bored with
that i put her in a bouncy chair or excersaucer, or on a playmat.. put her
in her crib, try switching her location when she gets bored, you cannot
hold her all the time if you do than ur never ever going to get anything
done trust me..
hot cheeto
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Thursday, 5th of August 2010 09:37:21 AM
My daughter is five months old, & I cooked for the first time hot cheeto after her birth the other day. Granted, I also work full-time, so my life Registered User is pretty hectic. Joined: Thursday, 27th of May 2010, 03:25:15 Posts: 287 I felt useless with the housework long before my daughter arrived. My Viewed 16456 times pregnancy was pretty rotten.all I wanted to do was lie on the couch & try
not to throw up. Somehow it gets done, but there is always the little
annoyances like that undone load of laundry sitting on the basement floor,
or when the carpets don't get vacuumed at least once a week. Let it go.
Your baby is way more important. Good luck.
chubby wubby
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Friday, 6th of August 2010 12:05:15 PM
Girl, me & you could talk!!! When I was pregnant I slacked off chubby wubby at cleaning house & now after my baby (5 months old) I had no excuse not Registered User to have a clean house being pregant. It seems like I can never catch up Joined: Tuesday, 27th of April 2010, 15:54:53 anymore with housework!!!!! Clothes & dishes are the worst. I am a part Posts: 1008 time working mom & my husband works full time & it is hard on both of us. Viewed 16960 times My only advice is that you ask someone to watch ur baby for 1/2 the day
or all day & clean the entire house from top to bottom. That is what I do
about once every two weeks & my grandmother of sister-n-law will keep my
dd. I just do light cleaning through the weeks. I hope I helped you out.
L.U.N.O
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Saturday, 7th of August 2010 12:23:42 PM
darlin..my son is now 4 months and my house is STILL a L.U.N.O disaster!! I have a friend coming tomorrow from out of town and I am Registered User Panicking and trying to clean up!! I cannot let her see my house like Joined: Sunday, 9th of May 2010, 00:31:22 this (since I havent seen her in over a year and she has never met my son) Posts: 835 Viewed 8422 times I think its natural!!! but I am hoping that once I get it clean today I
can sort of keep it that way!! GOD I HOPE!!
Good luck to you!!!!!!!!!!
Tiny
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Sunday, 8th of August 2010 12:13:04 AM
Give yourself a break. You are just getting used to taking Tiny care of a baby. You might try to complete one task every day get all the Registered User dishes done just one day. then buy some paper plates just for now. Make Joined: Saturday, 5th of June 2010, 15:50:18 a schedule the best you can and when baby is napping do just one thing. Posts: 1282 sweep, then rest while the baby is sleeping. Try that for awhile and even Viewed 10494 times though you don't get a ton of things done try doing just one thing
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Rockchick
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Monday, 9th of August 2010 08:08:03 PM
I feel the same way. My husband is working all the time, my son Rockchick seems to cry all day, and all I manage to get done with the laundry if Registered User that. Noting else gets done in my house. When my husband comes home from Joined: Thursday, 13th of May 2010, 09:47:18 work he takes the baby from me then I go do the bottles and cook dinner Posts: 974 and try to clean up a little. But if my son starts to cry I get him back. Viewed 2949 times I feel like I am going crazy sometimes.
Roo
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Tuesday, 10th of August 2010 02:36:36 PM
i definatley have times i feel useless too. especially because Roo i used to make about 1/2 of our money. & now next to nothing. Registered User some days ur not going to get things done, especially with a baby that Joined: Friday, 4th of June 2010, 05:34:20 young. it does get better! Posts: 564 take 15-20 minutes to get some dishes done. if you do this a couple times Viewed 3945 times a day like while baby naps you will get some of them done & feel alot
better about yourself. dont overdo it though. make sure ur getting enough
rest too! maybe buy some disposable dishes to use until you are feeling
better.
Giggle Bunny
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Wednesday, 11th of August 2010 08:09:10 AM
This is going to sound odd, especially because it seems like Giggle Bunny you are tired & still healing to a certain degree but. Registered User Joined: Monday, 19th of April 2010, 06:38:13 Get some exercise in the mornings. Most of the babies I know take a mid Posts: 1598 morning rest. Put ur baby in the stroller for the nap, or take a walk Viewed 806 times just before naptime & then sleep with the baby.
Getting a half an hour of activity in, in the mornings, will help you have
lots more energy & motivation later on in the day. The first couple of
days you probably wont notice a difference, but I think after about the
third day, you will start to see a marked improvement.
You just gave birth so ur hormones are all out of whack. Its pretty much
mother nature is way of saying.you are a new mom-focus on that right now.
But its been long enough that youre starting to want to contribute more
around the house. Getting in that half hour walk will help ur body bring
ur hormone levels back down to normal, which will, in turn, help you find
ur motivation to do more, on much less, & save ur hubby/boyfriend the
trouble.
Just try it for a week.seven days is all I ask.I guarantee at the end of
it, hubby will come home to a sparkling clean house daily!
Good LUck, & have Fun!
TwinKie
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Thursday, 12th of August 2010 10:03:03 AM
Just remember that you are only one person- Taking care of an TwinKie infant is a full time job lol. As for something like the dishes--Do them Registered User as you mess them- You eat out of a bowl wash it immediately along with Joined: Sunday, 2nd of May 2010, 05:10:25 that spoon..Its quick and it makes things a lot easier as you go Posts: 1975 throughout your day. Organization is out the window until that child is 18 Viewed 12867 times trust me..HAHA dont put yourself down -You have the most important job at
all!
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